Separated dating my husband
“Hey, could you please wear pants and stop bending over in front of my husband? She’ll be offended, and hopefully embarrassed (if she has any shame at all), but it’s not like you were going to be her best friend anyway. She can’t very well say, “No, it doesn’t make you feel uncomfortable!
” Just frame your discussion around your feelings, which you have ownership of, rather than her intentions, which you don’t have ownership of, and then there’s nothing to argue. He brushes off your concerns as if they don’t matter.
In the morning, my husband said that Ramona’s husband came over and told him to “give it to her nice and slow.” Obviously, he sees what’s going with his wife, too. Ramona wears lingerie sleepers and oversized t-shirts without shorts and the collars ripped out while in the presence of my husband.
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I’ve talked to my husband about all this and although he isn’t necessarily unwilling to tell her to stop, he isn’t confrontational and he tries to be polite, which I don’t fault him for as there is nothing worse than having bad blood with neighbors and starting a feud.
Consequently, Ramona continues to freely wander into our garage to “hang out and chit chat” with my husband (he is a night owl and tinkers on things), repeatedly going back to her house to fetch more wine when the bottle empties.
But here’s the thing: she’s not the biggest problem. He’s more interested in appeasing this neighbor women he’s just met than putting you at ease.
He’d rather be “polite” to her than risk, what, hurting her feelings by pulling away from her kisses or telling her it’s too late to have company in his garage or turning down her offer for another glass of wine?Something’s up with him and my guess is that whatever might be going on between him and Ramona probably starts with whatever is up between the two of you. If they aren’t getting that from their partners, then someone who is offering it up for free all the time is going to be appealing to them.